Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected

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Simon and Schuster, Mar 13, 2012 - Family & Relationships - 320 pages
“I trust Susan Stiffelman with my heart, my family, and my community. She knows that what goes on in my home every day is brutal and beautiful and hard and holy. She understands that while we are raising our children, we are still raising ourselves.” —Glennon Doyle Melton, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Love Warrior

From a family therapist, parenting expert and respected advice columnist for AOL’s HuffPost Parents comes a unique approach to parenting that can help eliminate drama, meltdowns, and power struggles.

Do you ever find yourself asking . . .

• How can you get your children to do their homework without meltdowns, threats or bribes?

• How can you have a drama-free morning where the kids actually get out the door in time for school?

• How can you better manage your kids’ screen time without making them want to hide what they’re doing from you?

Family therapist Susan Stiffelman is here to help. While most parenting programs are designed to coerce kids to change, Parenting Without Power Struggles does something innovative, showing you how to come alongside your children to awaken their natural instincts to cooperate, rather than at them with threats or bribes, which inevitably fuels their resistance. By staying calm and being the confident “Captain of the ship” your child needs, you will learn how to parent from a place of strong, durable connection, and you’ll be better able to help your kids navigate the challenging moments of growing up.

Drawing upon her successful practice and packed with real-life stories, Parenting Without Power Struggles is an extraordinary guidebook for transforming the day-to-day lives of busy parents—and the children they love.
 

Contents

Introduction
1
How to Be the Captain of the Ship Through Calm and Stormy Seas
7
Attachment and Connection
35
How to Help Your Kids Have Healthy Relationships with the Members of Their Village
55
Creating an Unshakable Connection with Your Kids
69
Helping Kids Deal with Frustration
85
Handling Resistance Anger Whining Meltdowns and Aggression
105
How to Get Kids to Cooperate
137
Every Childs a Genius
177
How to Help Kids Avoid Depression and Anxietyand Be Genuinely Happy
199
Being Present and Mindful and Unwinding Without Electricity
223
Empowering Kids to Create Their Very Best Lives
241
Live Like Your Kids Are WatchingBecause They Are
257
Acknowledgments
265
Notes
281
About the Author
303

Celebrate the Child Youve Got
159

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Susan Stiffelman is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage/family therapist in Malibu, California. She holds a BA in developmental psychology and an MA in clinical psychology. Through her presence as AOL's parenting expert (AdviceMama), her private work with adults, couples, teens and children, her frequent public presentations, her phone coaching, articles, interviews and active website ( www.parentingwithoutpowerstruggles.com ), Susan has become a source of advice and support for hundreds of thousands of parents longing to raise joyful and resilient kids in a fast-paced world.

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