It was the wedding the bride really wanted, one without her parents.
An Australian woman decided she could not have her “narcissistic” parents at her wedding and made sure they would not attend by sending them a special ‘noninvitation.’
Alyssa Pearce created a thread on Reddit five months ago called “Parents demanding a wedding invite” and let all of the people on the social media site know how their wishes were received.
“So my narcissistic parents abused me for 16 years before I ran away from home. Now they’re trying to bully their way (via family, they haven’t bothered to speak to me personally) into getting an invitation to my wedding,” Pearce writing under the pseudonym SkitzoCat posted. “There was really only one way to respond.”
Pearce then left a link to a beautifully crafted invitation with a cold and direct message.
“Together with our friends and family, Alex and Alyssa, would like to invite you to suck it and bask in our happiness, your bitterness and our mutual irritation at each other’s existence as we completely ignore yours and celebrate our marriage without you. There will be a lovely ceremony, followed by cake, food and general merriment. And you’re not invited to any of it. Because f–k you that’s why,” the invitation reads.
The 23-year-old bride told Buzzfeed she “snapped” after her parents used her grandparents to pressure her into an invite.
“So I went home and wrote my parents the de-invitation. I opened up a Word document, found the nicest calligraphy font I could, loaded up the printer with some of the lovely parchment paper left over from the other invitations, and wrote,” she told the website. “I then found a nice matching envelope, addressed it with a fancy gold pen, and posted it. I mean, if you’re going to send someone a memorable ‘stuff you,’ you’ve really got to put in some effort. You may as well go all-out.”
The post received more than 200 comments with many people offering support for the bride.
“I love you. I love the anti-invite. I love your badassery. Congratulations!” cheered one follower.
“You are my hero. hugs have a fabulous wedding!” added another.
But the stunt did have repercussions as Pearce posted a short time later that her father texted her grandfather stating their relationship was now irreconcilable and he didn’t want to see his family again.
Pearce also added in the message that both she and her grandfather decided he should not walk her down the aisle because he could be a target for Pearce’s father.
But that also didn’t bother the Ph.D student in applied linguistics.
“The aisle is only wide enough for one awesome person, so I’ll be walking myself down :P” she wrote in the thread.
