In My mothers words. I'M a 8 year's today, Massive Stroke Survivor

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Let's start by saying, you must stay positive no matter what shape your In. This is my Story.

On November 17th 2006, I went to the bank I asked If I could use the bathroom
I some how ended up on the floor. The door was locked, so the fire department had to
unlock the door. All I could think about was getting my pants back on. As they yelled at me to open the door and I kept saying I can't.
I found myself in a position where I could not move. I heard my husband voice of 48 years and that kinda brought me around a bit
I did achieve getting my pants up,I'm not sure how. When they came through the door it was scary to me
They picked me up put me on the gurney and off to the hospital I went They gave me some shot that would either kill me or cure me
My daughter and husband had to make this decision. I don't know what the medicine was but when I heard it could to kill me. I said to myself hell no, your not going to kill me yet. I got determined to live. I know we are not going to live for ever. I felt like It, wasn't time for me to go, just yet. I fought to live You have to fight to live.

They gave me, Ivs and stuck me with so many needles and a catheter to boot. I no longer was in control of my body. When I first came around, I was happy to be alive. I could not figure out what I had done in my life to cause this to happen to me or why. Yes, I was a little hard on myself when I was younger. I was very active, loving horses the way I do, I took a few good falls. I drank a bit to much. I quit all that drinking, when I figured out it was not my friend. I had been sober for twenty five plus years when this accrued.

The first twenty four hours were the test of my survival. My husband was standing by my bed. I wanted him to lay beside me and he did which made me feel better.

I told the nurses I wanted to stand up. They tried and, this was when I found out, I could not use my left leg and my left arm no longer worked my left knee just buckled. My arm swung free with no control. The doctor said I'm not sure you should be doing this just yet. He reassured me that I would be able to some day. I think It is good for people to here they can do it. Even though I am still not able to use my Left arm at all, my left leg I can move a little bit. I still hear his voice in my head and it gives me hope to this day.

They would put me in the wheel chair and take me to the bathroom this was embarrassing having other people wipe my body. I found the first thing I had to learn, was to ask when I needed to go to the bathroom . I traveled through three different nursing homes the third home told me to just go to the bathroom in my bed. That made me feel very uncomfortable. even though I had been doing this on and off the whole time. without really thinking about it.

There was nothing I could do, when they were pulling my hair out when they brushed it. My over all care was a little bumpy, but it was alright. They kept track of me pretty well
I just would have to say, "help" because I was helpless. They try, I understand they have other people to care for and this makes it a little hard for them to give 24 7 care. The care I needed. Even when it is their job.

Three or four months I'm guessing, I heard I might get to go home. My son would have to moved back from Washington to get me out. I could not leave until he arrived for good.He did fly down and visit a couple of days after my stroke. My husband could not care for me by himself. He was in his late 70s and had, had two heart attacks. He does manage alone pretty well, thank god. When I heard, I was going home, I felt very good. I wanted that normal life back, I would get to see my dog and my home of which we built. I had to re learn how to talk and write. My mouth drooped a little bit. I had to drink thickened liquids. I just wanted some clear normal water, but I might drown. I had to learn how to drink again.My diet was some solids like potato's. They would not let me eat jello, my son brought me some when he arrived after a visit when shared with him that I would like to eat some lime jello. He would bring me taco bell and Arby's But when he brought that Jello, I was so happy. I showed them I could eat it. Of coarse they said fine. They did not want to battle myself and my son. I was so grateful that my son made them see what I knew was possible the whole time. This was my first feeling of being alive again, being able to eat lime jello "wha" " who".

I had a few other medical problems I had a bed sore, I got from the nursing home And I had a hole on my foot that we had to treat at home. This wound was on my foot before the stroke they found it was three different types of staff infections. Of coarse we had to treat this at home. I believe this all stems from when I was younger and had breast enhancement done. I was one of the woman that the breast implant broke and all the chemicals leaked into my body. Young ladies out there do some research before you partake in Breast enhancement. We should be happy with ourselves. I say this now from my experience .

What I would tell the loved ones of people that have a stroke or any serious medical problems or the person that had the stroke keep your loved ones close to you drink a lot of water .Praying helps keep your mind clear .and or thinking positive thoughts.Think about the things that are really important. At first you may not remember any thing, but as time goes on you will start remembering. Give your self time to heal. Try not to panic the feeling of being trapped can be devastating. I can't go ridding my horses like I could , I can't drive a car like I could. My jewel of a son has had me do both . With a half of a body, I still can manage to hang on to a horse saddle. Of coarse they like to stay to close. I want them to let go. They are afraid, I'm going to get hurt and I would if I fell. I can use use my right foot for the gas and brake and steer with my right arm. Talk about freedom, I have a bit of a hard time staying between the lines and focusing. That's why we drive in the mountains or a little road down the hill from our house. There is not a lot of traffic.I have to learn so much over again. I have to practice. Remember your family has to heal with you. Give them time to heal as well. Try to stay as positive as you can. You cant always be, as positive as, every one else want's you to be .You can try to improve every day. Your in life for the long haul don't give up on yourself.

My sister Bonnie May And Myself Jeanne R Stover on The left.. 121 s Randle st Baltimore Maryland

I don't think any thing in life has ever knocked me down like this, but a Texas hornet. When I was a kid, I saw it coming. I turned and ran that thing hit me right in the back of the head and it knocked me out cold. At least I saw that mean bee coming. The stroke I never saw coming. It was a thief that crept in and stole my control over my Body in life. We take for granted so much, until we get the wake up call.

Therefore I thought to myself, what am I going to do with just one hand? I then remembered a piano player that I heard had lost his hand. Someone took the time to write him songs that he could play with just one hand. My son Is taking his time to write and share this with you. The value to help someone is a great treasure in my heart. I"m so glad to share this with you, through his help.

What I'm trying to say it is all worth it, to fight for your life. Yes for yourself and for your family and loved ones. You never know you maybe able to share your experience with someone that needs to hear it. Your words, from you. I have lived as a survivor of a massive stroke for 8 years now, today November / 17 / 2014
My health has had it's bumpy road's. My mind has had to take time for its healing process.

Its still there and I have to face that it's not all there at times. I feel better now, I have been faced with depression. I pray and try to think of good things and my loved ones have done a great job to support me through this ordeal. I must say you must have support to achieve your survival, even if you must go out side your family or loved ones to get it.

I have been blessed with my loved ones That care for me so much, I give great thanks to My daughter's Malissa Ryno, Marcy kwasniewski My grandson's and daughters Darrin Burch Dawayne Heatley, Corina Burch, Monica Eastman and all my Kwaskniewski grand children numbering 6. To all my family members.I love you all. My loving husband which I could of never made it through this without Him. Married for 48 years, He is My jewel of the Nile.and My son Jeff Burch which has stuck through this with me the whole time, he's my anchor. If You need to find someone that cares You must. Don't try to go it alone. My best wishes to all. Below is a poem I love, I wanted to share with You.

Curated By Jeanne R Stover about her Experience with her Massive stroke, through her eyes. My Mother and My inspiration

Written By Jeff Burch

LET GO AND LET GOD!

As children bring their broken toys
with tears for us to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God,
because He was my friend.
But then, instead of leaving Him,
in peace, to work alone;
I hung around and tried to help,
with ways that were my own.
At last, I snatched them back and cried,
"How can you be so slow?"
"My child," He said,
"What could I do?
You never did let go."

Poem- Author: Lauretta P. Burns -

My mother who I hold dearly to my heart and will do so forever.Jeanne R Stover

In my life I have as Jeff Burch on earth. I have a strong belief that we must care for our family, friends, and our loved ones and anyone we can touch with our lives.From today forward, I will seek the moments in time to love What I have. I will strive to accept what I must do to survive and build a foundation to support my mother and myself and share and help everyone I can. Words are a gift given to Bring us together. I hope this blog helps people in need of hope. Even in business or in any life experience, there will be times of trials and tribulations. Think positive and never give up on your life. For with it you may say something to someone that will be taken with great value. Something you share may bond their drive to survive. I wanted to share with you a very special celebration day In my Life.

I truly Believe this can help us with our business as well. Just knowing of someone that never gave up on life,may help us not give up on our business A you can do it mind set.

By Jeff Burch 11/17/2014

My Business http://Onlinebusinesstrain.com